Being single might come as a dull period to others, but believe me, it might be a blessing in disguise. It’s a time when it is all about you and yourself. Apart from now, do you think you will ever get the opportunity to be selfish, and no one judges you?
Spoil yourself and have no one point fingers at you? And if they do, you have the best excuse to give, ‘Oh please, give me a break, I am SINGLE!’ So honestly, when you find yourself in this period, maximize its benefits.
The following are some things every single woman should try out before they return to the dating scene.
SPOIL YOURSELF
Yes babe, you heard me right, spoil yourself. Take yourself to places that you have always wanted him to take you to, but he never did. Now you are alone, at least you will financially spend on yourself. And if you do not have that much money during this period, do not worry, some places don’t even need a penny. As far as you have fun and spend some time alone, it’s healthy!
Buy yourself that dress that gives you some freedom that a man can’t understand. Go out, have fun, party till late at night, and don’t even go back home if you do not feel like it; believe me, you will not get 10 missed calls from one person. You can try all kinds of ice creams and see which one suits you well; I mean, you understand what I am talking about, right? <wink>
Try the idiotic things you thought you would never do, like drinking that liquor you are always afraid of because you believe you will black out sooner than later.
INTERACT
Make new friends. This is when no one will ask you why you were talking to that guy or whom you have been with. The world is yours; go for it. When you see a hot guy, you are allowed to say, “Daaamn! That guy is so handsome.” You can attend an event, and you go ahead and flirt with a few men or women, and no one will be fuming. Isn’t it great?
Remember, once you start dating, when you are seen just speaking to a stranger who perhaps might be asking for direction, you must have a valid response to why you were talking to them.
Go for girls-only trips, or have a weekend with the ladies. Gossip about your not-taken-yet male or female colleagues. If possible, you can explore your sexuality too. Travel, attend meetings in other cities and learn new languages and traditions. You have the freedom to interact with different people without feeling guilty.
SAVOUR THE MOMENT
Being part of the best moment in your life, learn to enjoy it. Use this period to do everything you think having a partner would not allow you to do. If you live alone, you will most of the time be alone. You have the chance to eat from the pan or lick your fingers after taking chicken nuggets. You can do the silliest things and have no one who will look at you like you are being immature.
Also, during this period, you can perfect yourself in something you are not good at, and you might be embarrassed to do them before your partner. If you do not know how to ride a bicycle or swim, take the classes. The good news is no one will laugh at you when you fall.
If you have a child, strengthen the bond. Go out more with your baby and learn about their likes and dislikes. Be keen on their social lives and keep an interest in their academics. Then is when they will learn to trust you more, especially if you are a busy mom dealing with work, on the other hand.
GROW YOURSELF
This is the most important thing to do before you start dating. Grow yourself in all aspects; financially, emotionally, psychologically, and health-wise. Here, you will learn how to love and cherish yourself. You will eliminate any self-esteem issues that another person might use to bring you down.
Being your own heroine will not need a third party to prove your importance. Since you do not have time for another persona, you will only have time for yourself so use it sparingly. Read books, join a business club or yoga class, and start an investment or an exercise routine.
Learn your weakness and improve on them, do not let anyone use them against you. Acknowledge your strength and sharpen your abilities. If you are also from an abusive relationship before, this is the time to heal. Take your time and relieve yourself from any pain that you have carried forth from your previous relationships.
Also, prepare yourself to enter into a healthy relationship this time round. Identify your talents or if you have any skills and sharpen them. If you are not employed, find an income-generating project to sustain you. Never enter a relationship broke; your partner is not a business opportunity.
With all these tips, you are in for the most enjoyable ride of your life!
Elation Space 